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Life Is Hard

“I can handle anything life throws at me.”

Not long ago, I came upon a quotation I can only now paraphrase. It said that this life is full of problems and struggles, and that acknowledging that fact can bring us peace.

How many times are we fed the nonsense that we must always feel good? Life has too many down moments. I have met some truly happy people, and none of them are without significant problems and events. They are happy, because they know that life brings them positive and negative moments, and it’s easier to feel peaceful during a tough situation when you know it’s  temporary and soon to be balanced out by easy times.

Accepting the pain and yes, agony, of tragic situations helps us to grieve our losses. Washing ourselves in authentic anguish brings to the surface our pain and causes us to release emotions which, if trapped inside, would otherwise incapacitate us.

In the welcoming of the agony of life’s losses, we can also welcome the new opportunities and blessings that come with them, too. And in those moments, we find joy in knowing we can handle anything life throws at us.

Namaste, Sheryl

The Middle Path

The Middle Path

I woke up early today for a Talk with The Creator…


Sheryl: Hey, God…

God: Hi, Beautiful You. (*hug*) Let’s talk about body, mind and spirit. Humans are a bit complex in their make-up and yet simple when it comes to caring for themselves.

Sheryl: Are you talking about the maintenance of ourselves or about self-love or something else?

God: I’m talking about the things it takes to make a human healthy in body, mind and spirit. These three areas cannot be divided from each other, and they all work together. In many cases, you guys neglect one of them and then your entire body–your entire life, if you will–suffers.

The Buddha was on the right path with the middle path. This is the concept that moderation and upkeep of body, mind and spirit lead to a healthy life. By healthy, I don’t just mean being a fine physical specimen. I also mean that one’s spirit is carefree and happy and that one’s mind is active and engaged.

Sleep, nutritious food, exercise, and intimacy are all needed to take care of the body.Doing work you love at every age, whether it’s raising children, crunching numbers or playing card games, nourishes your mind. Taking care of the little child inside you by being aware of his/her needs nourishes your spirit.

Sheryl: You do make it sound simple.

God: Indeed, it is. But life as a human is full of challenges. You have physical ailments. You have other people’s opinions  of how you should live. You have your own upbringings, so the human parents you chose have a great influence as to how you treat yourself. It’s all reversible, of course, but some things are easier to reverse than others.

Awareness is key and is the first step. Just notice if you are or are not sleeping well, eating well, etc. Notice if your mind is or isn’t usually engaged. And notice if your spirit seems weak and tired or happy and loved. Then ask yourself, “What can I do to make this better?” Listen. The answers are with you, inside you.

Sheryl: Thank you, I will pass this message along. And use it on myself, too.

Namaste, Sheryl



“The practice of writing in a journal is a powerful tool for cultivating what you want from life.

We are artists, creating our lives out of the materials of our experiences, thoughts, and dreams. When we write, we empower ourselves and breathe life into what we want and how we want to live.

You can’t always know exactly how your desires will materialize into reality. This is where faith comes in.

If you show up, listen to and speak from your heart, and then let go of the need to know how, you can let the universe or God or quantum physics or whatever that thing is that helps our dreams become a reality do its magic.”

— Janna Krawczyk, tinybuddha.com

Writing has, as far back as I can remember, been an important release in my life. Whether I wrote to figure out my emotions as a teenager or played with fictional short stories, writing gave my mind a chance to explore and play.

Journaling is now a critical part of my grief therapy as I move forward after the death of my husband. In my lowest emotional states, writing in my journal without censor or abandon helps my mind make sense of the chaotic thoughts that make me think I’m going crazy. Why did he die? Why now? What now? Some of these questions will never have answers, but dumping them out onto paper–or in my case, into my word processing program–helps me to find peace.

I was curious how others might use personal writing and found a tinybuddha.com blog regarding the power of journaling. Ms. Janna Krawczyk presents a personal case of searching for answers, journaling about her situation, gaining clarity over time, and then, having The Creator/Universe/God bring her solutions.

How this makes sense to me! The Creator is here to help our biggest dreams to come true. Writing our dreams down helps us think through them and brings clarity to them. This clarity makes it easier for them to be manifested.

If you don’t have a cute journal or laptop available, just grab a piece of paper and a pen and let your mind send thoughts to your journal without judgment. Let me know what happens!

Namaste, Sheryl



Happiness is a Choice

“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”

– Groucho Marx (1895-1997)

My happiest days have been the ones on which I decided I would be happy. This life on Earth that we’ve all chosen is one of miscues, misunderstandings and misbehaviors. No one reaches the age of 35 (in my humble opinion) without some seriously horrible event or circumstance occurring in his/her life. There is no logic to being cheerful after this age, because we all have legitimate excuses to groan and complain.

And yet, choosing sadness brings more sadness which eventually brings depression.  I’m not saying that life doesn’t deal us good reasons to seek professional help for trauma, believe me. What I’m saying is that if an individual complains about her/his life’s injury, it can be selfish. It can also keep that person from healing, because complaining often feels like a solution to a complaint, when it’s really not.

Saying, “I’m great,” to someone who asks, “How are you?” is a powerful, first step in choosing happiness.

Namaste, Sheryl



“The deliciousness of each day made me feel as though I’d just been born. It was as if I’d entered the world as an adult, as if I’d been born for the first time on February 3, 2006.

At the same time, I found myself unable to reconnect with many of my old friends, whom I attempted to  meet over lunch or coffee. Everyone was anxious to catch up with me, but most  didn’t understand how deeply and profoundly this experience had changed me.”

– Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me


“So I went to New York City to be born again. It was and remains easy for most Americans to go somewhere else and start anew. I wasn’t like my parents. I didn’t have any supposedly sacred piece of land or shoals of friends to leave behind. Nowhere has the number zero been of more philisophical value than in the United States…. and when the [train] plunged into a tunnel under New York City, with it’s lining of pipes and wires, I was out of the womb and into the birth canal.”

– Kurt Vonnegut, Bluebeard

“In the last few years, losing my father, going through a divorce, and not getting some jobs I really wanted are making me a much more interesting person, I think. This really does feel like a rebirth, a new chapter.”

– John Stamos


We emerge from our mothers’ dark and warm wombs into a bright, strange world. We live here for a while, and many of us get so attached to our surroundings that we decide to keep them close to us our whole lives.

Others of us, by conscious choice or by subconscious choice, decide to leave one existence and re-emerge into a new one while still on the planet. While our bodies may appear to be the same, our lives are permanently and forever changed. The disjoint is usually striking, both to the reborn and to those who were previously a part of his life.

Just as a caterpillar does not attempt to bring her cocoon with her after she emerges as a butterfly, let us feel free to leave behind the remnants of a past existence. Butterflies have new work like pollinating plants and laying eggs. If you wouldn’t expect a butterfly to hang around with the caterpillars, why would you expect someone in a state of rebirth to maintain her previous lifestyle?

Let’s share and celebrate our stories regarding rebirth!  🙂

Namaste, Sheryl

actions over words

Actions over Words

“Students and teachers, and all others,
Who read the mere words of ponderous books, know nothing,
But only  waste their time in vain pursuit of words;
He who acts righteously is wise.”
– Traditional Hindu Principle

The teaching of using actions over words comes not only from Hinduism but permeates through every culture and religious tradition. Not just a popular saying, we see it in action daily. How many parents tell their children one thing and set a different example through their actions? Then, the parents are confused or angry when the kids do what they DO, instead of what they SAY.

It turns out that we rarely listen only to a person’s spoken words. Dr. Albert Mehrabian, author of Silent Messages, conducted several studies on nonverbal communication. He found that 7% of any message is conveyed through words, 38% through certain vocal elements, and 55% through nonverbal elements (facial expressions, gestures, posture, etc). How many times have you listened to a speaker at a conference only to tune them in or out based on nonverbal cues? Me, too!

The question is, what does this have to do with Talking with The Creator of All?

First, when we tune into The Creator, we can hear Her/His words but that’s not all. We can also hear Her/His demeanor; it may be sympathetic, light-hearted or even serious. I had one day when every little thing was going haywire — nothing terrible, just everything went wrong. I tuned into God and heard uproarious laughter. I was the Divine’s butt of the joke for the day!

Second, we look at The Creator’s actions. When we pay attention, we can see The Creator creating what we wish and work for. We can see The Creator putting people in our way for so many reasons: To help us accomplish our goals; To keep us from straying from a path; To teach us a lesson and many more.

Finally, we see how The Creator works in other’s lives. There’s nothing like being inspired by a story of a person with a dream 100 times greater than her making her hopes a reality. And in contrast, how many times do we see people who complain about their illnesses or dramas only manifesting more of the same?

When you next talk with The Creator, listen for Her/His personality. I find The Creator’s range of nonverbal expressions to be wide. How about you?

Namaste, Sheryl

New Year New Changes

New Year, New Changes

Happy New (Gregorian) Year! For many of us in western cultures, this is a time for reflection of the past and planning for the future. We decide to exercise more or diet or organize our living spaces.

I am re-posting a conversation I had with The Creator in October regarding major changes that we decide to make. We do not make changes for things that are working for us, only for things that are broken in some way. Surrender is a powerful way to fully appreciate and accept a broken life, so that we may make meaningful change.

I wish you a year free of fear and worry with health, happiness, and prosperity, and I gently recommend you make this wish to every one in your life!

Namaste, Sheryl


2014 October 26

Sheryl: Hi, God.

God: Hi, Me… Us. You want to talk about surrender?

Sheryl: Yes, and acceptance. Is there a difference? And can we use them to help ourselves and others?

God: Yes, that’s a lot to talk about. I think of acceptance and surrender along the same lines. Surrender is acceptance with much greater intensity. You see, acceptance of the little things that can’t be changed can give you a happy demeanor. It can make your life easier to live.

Sheryl: When I think of acceptance, I think of accepting people as they are. I think of accepting unchangeable environments. For example, when we were in Hawaii, we had to accept that the cost of comfortable housing was above our budget.

God: Yes, acceptance is for all the little things. Surrender is acceptance for EVERYTHING. Surrender is helpful when there are so many little things in your life you cannot embrace and you cannot change that you don’t know what to do.

That brings me to the difference between accepting and embracing. Accepting a person does not mean embracing her. Accepting a situation does not mean embracing it. Your lives are a compound of many millions of “things.” “Things” include people, physical environment like sights and sounds, personal decisions, and so much more. When the number of “things” that you cannot change or embrace becomes too many, you struggle mightily. You can choose to continue to struggle – not a fix. You can choose to break down – not a fix. You can choose to take out your frustrations on innocent victims – abuse, is what I call this.

Or you can choose to surrender. Surrender means you accept EVERYTHING. It does not mean you embrace it. Surrender requires that YOU change. You change your environment. You change your habits. You change people in your life. You change something. And sometimes, you change everything.

Sheryl: Surrender is an act of desperation.

God: Yes, it is. When you surrender, you say, “Hey, I can’t stand the way things are, but they are what they are. I will have to change myself if I want peace.”

Sheryl: You remind me of surrender in war times and of the work of organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous.

God: Surrender occurs when all other tries have failed. There is beauty in it. There is strength in it. There is peace in it. You lay down your defenses against your environment, so you can accept it and move away from it. That is surrender.

Sheryl: Thank you.


What Would The Creator Do

What Would The Creator Do?

Transcending the religious tenets of the world is a spiritual belief that we carry the divine spark of God within us. Some describe this as being made in God’s image.

I am reminded of WWJD, the question that was popular in the Christian world some years ago: What Would Jesus Do? I’d like to steal idea that and ask “What Would The Creator Do?” When we act as if God would act, we align ourselves with that divine spark.

Would God get anxious or worried? Or would God relax and just work with what’s at hand?

Would God insist that life work a particular way? Or would God be content to accept the natural opportunities life presents?

Would God be loud and insistent on being heard? Or would God be quiet, listening, learning and then humbly taking action?

If you are having a hard time answering these questions, please ask your ego to rest quietly and let your soul — your divine spark — answer them in its unassuming way.

What Would The Creator Do?

Namaste, Sheryl

world peace

World Peace

In a scene from the comedy movie, “Miss Congeniality,” beauty pageant emcee Stan Fields conducts an onstage interview of Gracie Hart, an ill-mannered FBI agent who has unwillingly gone undercover as a pageant contestant.

  • Stan Fields:    “What is the one most important thing our society needs?”
  • Gracie Hart:   “That would be harsher punishment for parole violators, Stan…”
  • [the crowd is silent]
  • Gracie Hart:    “…And world peace!”
  • [the crowd cheers wildly]

I am like Gracie Hart. I will say that I have spent most of my life with the opinion that world peace was utterly unattainable. The best we could do, I figured, was to attain my favorite 80/20 ratio:  80% of people living free and unmolested and 20% oppressed or under fire in some way.

In the past years as I’ve thrown myself into the study of The Creator — you may call this the study of spirituality or of New Age ideas or of spiritual truths — I have realized that world peace is attainable.  I have learned from leaders who insisted on reconciliation in the face of violence: Nelson Mandela, Mohatma Gandhi, Mother Teresa, and Martin Luther King, Jr..

I have learned that the force of a society, a culture, a religion or a government is nowhere near strong enough to bring about world peace. It is the force of a single person, connecting to another single person through an act of kindness or a simple smile who connects to another and another and another.

Imagine a room the size of an indoor basketball arena. It is pitch black and filled with people holding unlit candles. Ask the government to light the candles, and by the time the government employees are finished lighting them, many candles will have burnt out, and soon, the arena will be dark again. But have one person light her candle and pass her flame to as many people as she can who pass their flames to as many people as they can, and within minutes the arena will be flooded with light.

This is how we arrive at world peace. We make a conscious effort every day, regardless of our mood or circumstances, to pass along our Light and our kindness. Just your wonderful you, spreading your Light to a few people every day, is all the world needs to be at peace.

Namaste,  Sheryl

No News is Good News

“There is a reason why we never feel good after watching the 6 o’clock news:  because it’s filled with fear-ladened propaganda to keep us living in that vibration, which eventually manifests itself somewhere throughout our day or evening.”

– Gregg Prescott, in5d.com

Thoughts are energy. Sad, scary, depressing, fearful and negative thoughts bring low energy. Happy, positive, exciting, hopeful and uplifting thoughts bring high energy.

So, the question is, which energy do you want in your life? If you would prefer low energy, to move around your life with a sense of hopelessness and despair, then a sure solution is to tune your televisions and radios to a news channel. It doesn’t matter which news channel, either. It could be a conservative, liberal, neutral, faith-based or government news station. The results will be the same.

If you prefer high energy, to feel joyful and hopeful, a sure solution is to send thoughts of lovingkindness first to yourself and then to everyone else. In one of my favorite songs, China Anne McClain sings, “I am, you are, we are… exceptional.” Whenever I send that unspoken thought to people I meet, I always, always get a smile and a connection.

You may be wondering if not keeping up with the news will make you miss out on something. In short, no. If it’s news that will truly affect you, you will hear it from a friend or neighbor. If you feel you will show up to the water cooler chat uneducated, then show up as the student of the news instead of as the teacher. (Uneducated you says, “George, what do you think is important about the decline in cranberry production?”) Or even better, spend your news channel time studying your industry and its trends and turn that frown into a promotion!

Namaste, Sheryl