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Do Mistakes Really Exist?

“Nowadays most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one’s mistakes.”
― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

You may have to read this quotation a few times to fully understand it; I sure did.

Let me tell you about my three biggest mistakes: 1) I stayed in an abusive relationship for over four decades; 2) I moved to Hawaii; and 3) I worked too hard to try to keep a mentally-disturbed foster child in my home.

Now, I can’t tell you about my biggest mistakes without telling you about my greatest accomplishments: 1) After discarding my abusive relationship,  I discovered a scared, sweet child inside myself who needed a lot of coaxing from me to come out. I made for myself what many people take for granted: a safe home, surrounded by family and friends who love and respect me in the healthiest sense of those words.  2) My move to Hawaii ended up being my greatest unselfish act, as it allowed my husband and his grown son to reconnect and mend their broken relationship in the months before my husband unexpectedly died. 3) I wanted so badly for my foster daughter to become my adopted daughter that I took her to multiple medical and psychological professionals to figure out why she hadn’t settled into my home. Child Services didn’t want recorded that she had a serious attachment disorder, but because of me, they didn’t have a choice. Because of me, that little girl received the mental health services she needed. She didn’t stay in my home, but because of that mistake, I learned how important it was to provide immediate and gentle care to babies; and I needed that education to become a healthy mom for the babies I would later have.

What got me through all three of those mistakes was the knowledge that a greater power existed. There were times when I cried out in agony to the Creator. There were times when I felt completely abandoned by the Creator. But as I discovered the accomplishments, I could not deny the fingerprints of the Creator on my life.

Thank you, Creator of All, for providing great wisdom in great mistakes.

Namaste, Sheryl

Mistakes

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”

– Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (1926-2004)


“If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.”

– John Wooden (1910-2010)


“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.”

– Buddha (563-483 BCE)


I made a mistake. Well, I think I made a mistake, anyway. Here’s the story… in a last-minute plan that seemed like a great idea at the time, I came to Hawaii in June and spent less than a week looking at the island and finding a home for my family to live. While I found great schools for my children, I ignored the warning signs of finding a suitable place for us to live. On our last day of the exploratory visit, I booked a rental house, only to find out now that the home is in poor repair and the landlord does not care to do what is necessary to fix it. The rental market is very tight, with few three bedroom homes. And it is impossible for us to purchase a comfortable home given the Hawaiian cost of living and our coming from a low cost of living area – Texas.

If I shared my story with Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, she would advise me to go inside and to discover what it is I am supposed to learn. I would say that it has been a huge blessing to become closer to my stepson who lives here. His girlfriend has advised me on artwork for my first book and will serve as my editor, too! I would say that I appreciate the abundance of fresh tropical fruits and fish. I would say that I learned that I value a comfortable home that works well over panoramic views and access to beaches.

If I shared my story with John Wooden, he would commend me on being a “doer.” He would tell me about the many people who never take chances. He would say that doing often results in successes, too. Keep doing, he would say.

If I shared my story with The Buddha, he would ask me if I had gone all the way. I started this, to be sure, so no mistake there. But have I gone all the way? Could waiting for the manifestation of money bring us to a comfortable home? Or does going all the way mean I’ve accepted Hawaii for everything it is and exhausted all the possibilities for a pleasurable life here?

I am so glad to have these many mentors to help me. I know that if we return to Texas – our current plan now – I will spend plenty of time getting to know our new town so that our basic needs for comfort can be easily met. I will not make the same mistake again, at least, not on purpose!

Thank you, Creator of All, that you give me mistakes and life lessons, so that I may grow stronger. Thank you that I can be an example to others who may be considering the mistake I made. Thank you that I can model resilience, perseverance and a good attitude for those around  me.

Namaste, Sheryl