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Love is Grief is Love is…

You can’t breathe. You can’t sleep. Thoughts of your dear one consume every moment you’re awake and asleep.

GRIEF comes slowly. It knocks softly on the door, at first. Then, it becomes more insistent as the weeks and months go by, until it hits you in the face: It is Grief, and it is here.

Grief comes quickly. You are walking along, minding your own business. Everything is fine with the world, and then, Bam! There is Grief. It is shocking in its intensity. You try to deny it, but all the signs are there, and it cannot be denied. Sudden Grief can only be accepted, and only by those who are strong enough to handle its bombshell.

Grief affects every single cell in your body. You can’t breathe. You can’t sleep. You can’t eat (or you eat more than you should). Thoughts of Grief and of the one you Lost consume every moment while you’re awake and while you sleep.

Grief makes you think you’re going crazy. Your thoughts become irrational. You think of the past and of the future. Even when you want to concentrate on the moment, the enormity of Grief makes it difficult.

Why Grief, you wonder? Why Grief now? Is this really real? This feels too horrible to be true. The intensity of Grief stops you in your tracks. It wants your undivided attention. No longer can you spend time on the mundane. Grief must be dealt with—must be processed—first.

You who can process Grief can move forward into a new, peaceful coexistence with the one you Lost. You who deny Grief are stuck in its grasp. Even though a tranquil life is ahead, it is around a bend in the road. Processing Grief places you at the bend, and that is where you can see your new life. The one you Lost is there and brings beauty to your life. You can breathe and function again. And yes, there is Love off in the distance when the time is right and not a moment before.

Grief is what it is. Accepting and embracing Grief make it real. When Grief arrives, invite it in. Let it stay as long as it wants to. Don’t speed it up. Don’t slow it down. Let it take you on the journey you need. Grief is not an anomaly. It is not abnormal. It is not an exception to Life’s rules. It is not to be denied. Whether Grief arrives slowly or quickly, it is meant to be embraced and integrated. Grief will forever change you for the better, if only you will let it.

 

LOVE comes slowly. It knocks softly on the door, at first. Then, it becomes more insistent as the weeks and months go by, until it hits you in the face: It is Love, and it is here.

Love comes quickly. You are walking along, minding your own business. Everything is fine with the world, and then, Bam! There is Love. It is shocking in its intensity. You try to deny it, but all the signs are there, and it cannot be denied. Sudden Love can only be accepted, and only by those who are strong enough to handle its bombshell.

Love affects every single cell in your body. You can’t breathe. You can’t sleep. You can’t eat (or you eat more than you should). Thoughts of Love and of the one you Found consume every moment while you’re awake and while you sleep.

Love makes you think you’re going crazy. Your thoughts become irrational. You think of the past and of the future. Even when you want to concentrate on the moment, the enormity of Love makes it difficult.

Why Love, you wonder? Why Love now? Is this really real? This feels too wonderful to be true. The intensity of Love stops you in your tracks. It wants your undivided attention. No longer can you spend time on the mundane. Love must be dealt with—must be processed—first.

You who can process Love can move forward into a new, peaceful coexistence with the one you Found. You who deny Love are stuck in its grasp. Even though a tranquil life is ahead, it is around a bend in the road. Processing Love places you at the bend, and that is where you can see your new life. The one you Found is there and brings beauty to your life. You can breathe and function again. And yes, there is Grief off in the distance when the time is right and not a moment before.

Love is what it is. Accepting and embracing Love make it real. When Love arrives, invite it in. Let it stay as long as it wants to. Don’t speed it up. Don’t slow it down. Let it take you on the journey you need. Love is not an anomaly. It is not abnormal. It is not an exception to Life’s rules. It is not to be denied. Whether Love arrives slowly or quickly, it is meant to be embraced and integrated. Love will forever change you for the better, if only you will let it.

Namaste,  Sheryl

giving

Giving – Our Natural State

“We may give without loving, but we cannot love without giving.”  — Bernard Meltzer (1916 – 1998)

Quotations about giving and love, like this one above, bewildered me for most of my life. I didn’t understand them. I was raised to believe that I might be worthy of love, if I fulfilled some condition. The process of giving was akin to a currency system. Giving meant I might receive something. Receiving meant I would give up something. In my house, we kept score, and giving for no reason or purpose was unthinkable. My family was the embodiment of the first phrase of Meltzer’s quotation.

I had no idea that this thinking was unhealthy and that I was broken. But the Creator of All,  in His/Her wisdom, created and then recreated troublesome scenarios in my life so I could question, “Why is this happening again?” I found people to help me. Wayne Dyer’s work was a start. Deepak Chopra’s books were life-changing. Brene Brown leaves me speechless. Two counselors and several social  media communities provided the insight I needed. And now, ten years along this journey, I am profoundly different.

Giving with love and without conditions is our natural inclination.  It is one important reason why we are here. Please, pause a moment and ask your soul if this is true.

Raise your hand if asking this question put a smile on your face and brought peace to your heart. (Wow, that’s a lot of hands!) Can you give without expectations or conditions? If yes, then continue to do so as much as you can. Every act of giving, no matter how large or small, brings peace to the world. If no, then practice; it will come naturally after a while. You can start little: slip money into the tip jar when the cashier turns his head or give more credit to someone else than yourself on a group project.

Finally, let’s talk about giving in, which I think is one of the most beautiful ways of giving with love. Giving in is about unconditional acceptance of differences in people, in their ideals, and in their ideas. Loving people so much that you will not argue with them is an expression of respect, and it recognizes their individual importance in our world.

I apologize for rambling on. It has been a while since I blogged, so my writing is a little loose. But hang in there with me; it will get better. With love, I give you my best, and I wish you peace and success on your journey.

Namaste, Sheryl

Action of Love

Hello, below is another excerpt from Talking With The Creator, Book One. The Creator of All and I discuss what “action of love” means. How eloquently and easily She/He describe love and action.

Thank you for your ideas and comments below.

Namaste, Sheryl


God: I would like to talk about the action of love and what that means. That’s not to say that these other examples of love are invalid. I don’t mean that at all. What I mean is that, for the context of this chapter, I want to discuss the powerful action that is love.

Sheryl: Is this love as in how parents love children?

God: No, it’s not. Frankly, many parents who wish to and claim to love their children do not exhibit what I want to discuss.

Sheryl: Then, you’re talking about an unconditional love?

God: No and yes. No, because the term “unconditional love” still seems to incorporate a lot of behavior that I don’t consider love the way I want to present it. Yes, because love that is truly unconditional is truly respectful and accepting, and yes, that is what I want to talk about.

  • Love allows people to be who they are. Love may challenge someone to grow, but it will never be harsh to someone who doesn’t grow or doesn’t want to grow.
  • Love lends a hand when someone is having a rough time, but love doesn’t exploit that rough time to create future dependence.
  • Love gives hugs no matter the behavior. And love sets boundaries with consequences when the behavior is not acceptable.
  • Love takes care of creation: animals, seas, skies, plants and trees. Love does not sacrifice someone’s dignity who doesn’t see the value of this care.
  • Love takes care of children and those who are physically unable to take care of themselves. Always. Love also means that caretakers take breaks so as to keep themselves healthy.
  • Love is kind, caring and sweet. Love is also taking gentle leave of those who cause anxiety or hardship or who interfere with one’s passion.
  • Love is calculated! And the calculator shows the sum of love to be infinitesimally larger than the sum of hate.
  • Love is beauty, and beauty is found in 99% of creation.
  • Love is your essence. Love is your calling. Love is your fuel and your fire. Love is also your oasis, your sanctuary, your peace and your calm.
  • Love is me, and it is why talking with me and reaching out to me can bring you all of this love.
  • Love is the sky without limits. It is the ocean with an endless supply of waves. Love knows no bounds and yet, love has boundaries that are also love.

I have said this in many ways, to many people, through many spiritual and religious texts. Love — as I have just defined it — is my core. Because it is my essence, it is your    essence, too.

When you embrace this idea of love, practice it, and use it in your lives, you experience a peace, a joy, a passion and a desire that will seem both new and old to you. It will seem new, if you have never experienced it before. And it will seem old, too, because it is timeless and has always been a part of you and me.

Sheryl: I think we might need a new word for this.

God: Yes, I agree. But until then…  (smiles)