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Giving – Our Natural State

“We may give without loving, but we cannot love without giving.”  — Bernard Meltzer (1916 – 1998)

Quotations about giving and love, like this one above, bewildered me for most of my life. I didn’t understand them. I was raised to believe that I might be worthy of love, if I fulfilled some condition. The process of giving was akin to a currency system. Giving meant I might receive something. Receiving meant I would give up something. In my house, we kept score, and giving for no reason or purpose was unthinkable. My family was the embodiment of the first phrase of Meltzer’s quotation.

I had no idea that this thinking was unhealthy and that I was broken. But the Creator of All,  in His/Her wisdom, created and then recreated troublesome scenarios in my life so I could question, “Why is this happening again?” I found people to help me. Wayne Dyer’s work was a start. Deepak Chopra’s books were life-changing. Brene Brown leaves me speechless. Two counselors and several social  media communities provided the insight I needed. And now, ten years along this journey, I am profoundly different.

Giving with love and without conditions is our natural inclination.  It is one important reason why we are here. Please, pause a moment and ask your soul if this is true.

Raise your hand if asking this question put a smile on your face and brought peace to your heart. (Wow, that’s a lot of hands!) Can you give without expectations or conditions? If yes, then continue to do so as much as you can. Every act of giving, no matter how large or small, brings peace to the world. If no, then practice; it will come naturally after a while. You can start little: slip money into the tip jar when the cashier turns his head or give more credit to someone else than yourself on a group project.

Finally, let’s talk about giving in, which I think is one of the most beautiful ways of giving with love. Giving in is about unconditional acceptance of differences in people, in their ideals, and in their ideas. Loving people so much that you will not argue with them is an expression of respect, and it recognizes their individual importance in our world.

I apologize for rambling on. It has been a while since I blogged, so my writing is a little loose. But hang in there with me; it will get better. With love, I give you my best, and I wish you peace and success on your journey.

Namaste, Sheryl

A Trusted Friend

Has this ever happened to you?… You meet someone you like. You get to know her. You have a lot of interests in common, and you start hanging out together. You learn about him, and he learns about you. And when things are going so well that you are sure you can pour your entire heart out to this person, you find out that you have a fundamental difference with her. Maybe it’s a difference in politics or his stance on abortion.
 
This is so disappointing, right?
 
Unless… Unless, you can know this is to be expected. Always! 
 
Yes, you will find lots of people who will support and love you and with whom you can make fun and wonderful memories. And yes, you will have at least one fundamental difference with every one of them. Even your life partners! Especially your children!
 
There is but one “person” with whom you have every single thing in common, with whom you will never find a fundamental difference. The Creator of All created you in Her/His image, and for that reason alone, you will easily be able to discuss any and all subjects with Her/Him.
 
Aren’t you glad you’re one of the millions of people who has a direct connection with The Creator of All? I am!
 
Namaste,
   Sheryl
The Middle Path

The Middle Path

I woke up early today for a Talk with The Creator…


 

Sheryl: Hey, God…

God: Hi, Beautiful You. (*hug*) Let’s talk about body, mind and spirit. Humans are a bit complex in their make-up and yet simple when it comes to caring for themselves.

Sheryl: Are you talking about the maintenance of ourselves or about self-love or something else?

God: I’m talking about the things it takes to make a human healthy in body, mind and spirit. These three areas cannot be divided from each other, and they all work together. In many cases, you guys neglect one of them and then your entire body–your entire life, if you will–suffers.

The Buddha was on the right path with the middle path. This is the concept that moderation and upkeep of body, mind and spirit lead to a healthy life. By healthy, I don’t just mean being a fine physical specimen. I also mean that one’s spirit is carefree and happy and that one’s mind is active and engaged.

Sleep, nutritious food, exercise, and intimacy are all needed to take care of the body.Doing work you love at every age, whether it’s raising children, crunching numbers or playing card games, nourishes your mind. Taking care of the little child inside you by being aware of his/her needs nourishes your spirit.

Sheryl: You do make it sound simple.

God: Indeed, it is. But life as a human is full of challenges. You have physical ailments. You have other people’s opinions  of how you should live. You have your own upbringings, so the human parents you chose have a great influence as to how you treat yourself. It’s all reversible, of course, but some things are easier to reverse than others.

Awareness is key and is the first step. Just notice if you are or are not sleeping well, eating well, etc. Notice if your mind is or isn’t usually engaged. And notice if your spirit seems weak and tired or happy and loved. Then ask yourself, “What can I do to make this better?” Listen. The answers are with you, inside you.

Sheryl: Thank you, I will pass this message along. And use it on myself, too.


Namaste, Sheryl

What is it to Be Real?

“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’

‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’

‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

from The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams


 

According to Margery Williams, it is difficult to be Real. Those who damage easily or are high maintenance don’t often become Real. It is those who have been subjected to the rough play of life, who can get knocked around a bit without falling apart, who become Real. It’s when life REALLY loves you that you become Real.

What does it look like when life REALLY loves us? Meaningful risks resulting in great rewards…and in great losses, too. Caring for someone so deeply that we will trade everything we have to keep them with us…and having them leave. Giving a cause our last bit of energy because we know it’s deserving…and having it not be enough.

When we invite life to REALLY love us, we become shabby and war-torn. We know the sweetness of victory, as well as the agony of defeat. Maybe the Skin Horse could have admitted that Real people do mind getting hurt, it’s just the risk of missing out on love and adventure is worth the pain and agony that may come along with it. Sure, we may appear ugly to the majority of the fragile, high-maintenance people. To the Real people, we cannot be ugly.

The Creator of All loves and respects each of us equally in our journeys through this life. Rest assured, if you find yourself considered ugly by people because you became Real, your Creator will never see you as ugly.

Who, do you think, is more Real than The Creator of All?

Namaste,  Sheryl

God Talks About Tragedy

May 6, 2015

Sheryl: Hey, God.

God: Hey, incredible Me.

S: There’s no need to tell you what’s been going on in my world. [For my readers, on March 20, 2015, my husband and father of four, including our two minor children, died suddenly and unexpectedly while we were on vacation in Florida.]

G: Yeah… (sadly)

S: It seems like a cruel joke, sometimes. It seems like so many things were going right. And then the world seemed just to crumble from underneath our feet.

G: Yeah… (sadly)

S: You didn’t cause this? But you had a hand in it?

G: That’s right. I have a hand in everything. And I’m here to pick up the pieces with you.

S: Thank you.

G: (hug)  Your life is still perfection. It doesn’t feel that way, and no one would trade places with you; but still, it is perfect.

S: It just has the illusion of being a tumultuous, earthquake-shaken roller coaster in the dark?

G: Yeah. (sad laugh) That’s a pretty horrible disguise, isn’t it?


 

I offer my conversation with The Creator of All to you in love and peace. The truth is, each one of us who communicates directly with The Creator can learn different lessons about tragedy and death. Thus is the complexity and enormity of The Creator of All.

I invite you to go to that quiet place and reach out to The Creator to speak about life, death or whatever may be on your mind. Please share with us the message The Creator has for you.

Namaste, Sheryl

Rebirth

Rebirth

“The deliciousness of each day made me feel as though I’d just been born. It was as if I’d entered the world as an adult, as if I’d been born for the first time on February 3, 2006.

At the same time, I found myself unable to reconnect with many of my old friends, whom I attempted to  meet over lunch or coffee. Everyone was anxious to catch up with me, but most  didn’t understand how deeply and profoundly this experience had changed me.”

– Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me


 

“So I went to New York City to be born again. It was and remains easy for most Americans to go somewhere else and start anew. I wasn’t like my parents. I didn’t have any supposedly sacred piece of land or shoals of friends to leave behind. Nowhere has the number zero been of more philisophical value than in the United States…. and when the [train] plunged into a tunnel under New York City, with it’s lining of pipes and wires, I was out of the womb and into the birth canal.”

– Kurt Vonnegut, Bluebeard


“In the last few years, losing my father, going through a divorce, and not getting some jobs I really wanted are making me a much more interesting person, I think. This really does feel like a rebirth, a new chapter.”

– John Stamos


 

We emerge from our mothers’ dark and warm wombs into a bright, strange world. We live here for a while, and many of us get so attached to our surroundings that we decide to keep them close to us our whole lives.

Others of us, by conscious choice or by subconscious choice, decide to leave one existence and re-emerge into a new one while still on the planet. While our bodies may appear to be the same, our lives are permanently and forever changed. The disjoint is usually striking, both to the reborn and to those who were previously a part of his life.

Just as a caterpillar does not attempt to bring her cocoon with her after she emerges as a butterfly, let us feel free to leave behind the remnants of a past existence. Butterflies have new work like pollinating plants and laying eggs. If you wouldn’t expect a butterfly to hang around with the caterpillars, why would you expect someone in a state of rebirth to maintain her previous lifestyle?

Let’s share and celebrate our stories regarding rebirth!  🙂

Namaste, Sheryl

You Are a Creator

You are a Creator

“I feel the smile of  God as I create.
It’s like we are colleagues, working side by side
to manifest our ideas into objects.
Whether I am home creating vibrant children or
in my office, creating stories or ideas for clients,
God is my co-worker, and I am on his  team.”

— Sheryl Miller

Have  you had this feeling lately? Can’t it be a challenge to see your own contributions sometimes? I left a job once, because I didn’t feel like I was doing enough for the world through that job. I looked for meaning and didn’t find it. In hindsight, the job was loaded with contributions, and my work was important to thousands of people.

Because I’ve gained a larger world view through the experience of living, now it is easier for me to see the effects my life has on other people’s lives. It’s like rain falling on a pond; each water drop creates a ripple that extends in all directions. I cannot live without having such an effect and without others affecting my life, too.

As I offer, with intention, my conversations with The Creator of All and my other creations to the world, it helps me to appreciate the creations of others: my reliable car, the Chagall painting in my bedroom, my favorite TV shows, the kind thoughts of my husband, the spontaneous dancing of my daughter, and the active imagination of my little son.

You are a Creator, but if you are having trouble recognizing it, why not intentionally create something today? It could be as simple as a doodle on a piece of paper or as sophisticated as a rebuilt motorcycle engine.

Bring us your creativity. Please! We need you.

Namaste,  Sheryl

Your True Self

Your True Self

January 19, 2015

Sheryl: Hey, God…

God: Hi, Supreme You! Look at you go. How does it feel to be your true self?

Sheryl: It’s hard to put it into words. I would say it’s magical, because I’m following what I love, what I’m good at and I have this certain innate knowledge that is “right.”

God: For our readers, let me ask you some questions. Are you concerned about money or that what you’re doing will earn money?

Sheryl: No. I have a conviction that every material thing I need is here and that anything I need in the future will be present in the future.

God: Are you concerned about other people or what they may think of you?

Sheryl: No. I feel no concern about others’ opinions of me. I will say that I have new confidence about embracing people who support me and about letting go of those who don’t. I want to draw near those who love me and say farewell to those with whom I’m not compatible. I don’t feel emotional about this. It’s just a practical understanding of what I need to be me.

God: What are you worried about?

Sheryl: Returning to my old way of living.

God: The past is in the past. Leave it there. (voice of strong authority)

How does it feel to be free?

Sheryl: I did not build the original prison of limitation that I lived in the last 50 years. However, I spent a lot of resources to maintain and reinforce it. Now, I have knocked a huge hole in the wall, enough to see a new, unlimited reality. I understand that the prison won’t dissolve like sugar in water, but it will slowly deteriorate without maintenance, and as you just said, I don’t have to look back at it.

So, it feels amazing to be me. I have not known real appreciation for myself until now, and my life is forever better.

God: Did you know that I am you and you are me?

Sheryl: You’ve impressed that upon me for a long time. Deep down I’ve known it. I am tempted to say that I wasted our creative power with my life so far, but I appreciate myself too much to be harsh.

God: Good girl.

Sheryl: It’s a journey, and I just get to be grateful for the present moment.

God: Your past brought you here, and it is gone. The future will be here soon enough. The present moment is the best gift I can give you.

Sheryl: Thank you. (hug)

(hug back)

New Year New Changes

New Year, New Changes

Happy New (Gregorian) Year! For many of us in western cultures, this is a time for reflection of the past and planning for the future. We decide to exercise more or diet or organize our living spaces.

I am re-posting a conversation I had with The Creator in October regarding major changes that we decide to make. We do not make changes for things that are working for us, only for things that are broken in some way. Surrender is a powerful way to fully appreciate and accept a broken life, so that we may make meaningful change.

I wish you a year free of fear and worry with health, happiness, and prosperity, and I gently recommend you make this wish to every one in your life!

Namaste, Sheryl

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2014 October 26

Sheryl: Hi, God.

God: Hi, Me… Us. You want to talk about surrender?

Sheryl: Yes, and acceptance. Is there a difference? And can we use them to help ourselves and others?

God: Yes, that’s a lot to talk about. I think of acceptance and surrender along the same lines. Surrender is acceptance with much greater intensity. You see, acceptance of the little things that can’t be changed can give you a happy demeanor. It can make your life easier to live.

Sheryl: When I think of acceptance, I think of accepting people as they are. I think of accepting unchangeable environments. For example, when we were in Hawaii, we had to accept that the cost of comfortable housing was above our budget.

God: Yes, acceptance is for all the little things. Surrender is acceptance for EVERYTHING. Surrender is helpful when there are so many little things in your life you cannot embrace and you cannot change that you don’t know what to do.

That brings me to the difference between accepting and embracing. Accepting a person does not mean embracing her. Accepting a situation does not mean embracing it. Your lives are a compound of many millions of “things.” “Things” include people, physical environment like sights and sounds, personal decisions, and so much more. When the number of “things” that you cannot change or embrace becomes too many, you struggle mightily. You can choose to continue to struggle – not a fix. You can choose to break down – not a fix. You can choose to take out your frustrations on innocent victims – abuse, is what I call this.

Or you can choose to surrender. Surrender means you accept EVERYTHING. It does not mean you embrace it. Surrender requires that YOU change. You change your environment. You change your habits. You change people in your life. You change something. And sometimes, you change everything.

Sheryl: Surrender is an act of desperation.

God: Yes, it is. When you surrender, you say, “Hey, I can’t stand the way things are, but they are what they are. I will have to change myself if I want peace.”

Sheryl: You remind me of surrender in war times and of the work of organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous.

God: Surrender occurs when all other tries have failed. There is beauty in it. There is strength in it. There is peace in it. You lay down your defenses against your environment, so you can accept it and move away from it. That is surrender.

Sheryl: Thank you.

 

What Would The Creator Do

What Would The Creator Do?

Transcending the religious tenets of the world is a spiritual belief that we carry the divine spark of God within us. Some describe this as being made in God’s image.

I am reminded of WWJD, the question that was popular in the Christian world some years ago: What Would Jesus Do? I’d like to steal idea that and ask “What Would The Creator Do?” When we act as if God would act, we align ourselves with that divine spark.

Would God get anxious or worried? Or would God relax and just work with what’s at hand?

Would God insist that life work a particular way? Or would God be content to accept the natural opportunities life presents?

Would God be loud and insistent on being heard? Or would God be quiet, listening, learning and then humbly taking action?

If you are having a hard time answering these questions, please ask your ego to rest quietly and let your soul — your divine spark — answer them in its unassuming way.

What Would The Creator Do?

Namaste, Sheryl