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Do Mistakes Really Exist?

“Nowadays most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one’s mistakes.”
― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

You may have to read this quotation a few times to fully understand it; I sure did.

Let me tell you about my three biggest mistakes: 1) I stayed in an abusive relationship for over four decades; 2) I moved to Hawaii; and 3) I worked too hard to try to keep a mentally-disturbed foster child in my home.

Now, I can’t tell you about my biggest mistakes without telling you about my greatest accomplishments: 1) After discarding my abusive relationship,  I discovered a scared, sweet child inside myself who needed a lot of coaxing from me to come out. I made for myself what many people take for granted: a safe home, surrounded by family and friends who love and respect me in the healthiest sense of those words.  2) My move to Hawaii ended up being my greatest unselfish act, as it allowed my husband and his grown son to reconnect and mend their broken relationship in the months before my husband unexpectedly died. 3) I wanted so badly for my foster daughter to become my adopted daughter that I took her to multiple medical and psychological professionals to figure out why she hadn’t settled into my home. Child Services didn’t want recorded that she had a serious attachment disorder, but because of me, they didn’t have a choice. Because of me, that little girl received the mental health services she needed. She didn’t stay in my home, but because of that mistake, I learned how important it was to provide immediate and gentle care to babies; and I needed that education to become a healthy mom for the babies I would later have.

What got me through all three of those mistakes was the knowledge that a greater power existed. There were times when I cried out in agony to the Creator. There were times when I felt completely abandoned by the Creator. But as I discovered the accomplishments, I could not deny the fingerprints of the Creator on my life.

Thank you, Creator of All, for providing great wisdom in great mistakes.

Namaste, Sheryl

happiness

Happiness is a Choice

“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”

– Groucho Marx (1895-1997)

My happiest days have been the ones on which I decided I would be happy. This life on Earth that we’ve all chosen is one of miscues, misunderstandings and misbehaviors. No one reaches the age of 35 (in my humble opinion) without some seriously horrible event or circumstance occurring in his/her life. There is no logic to being cheerful after this age, because we all have legitimate excuses to groan and complain.

And yet, choosing sadness brings more sadness which eventually brings depression.  I’m not saying that life doesn’t deal us good reasons to seek professional help for trauma, believe me. What I’m saying is that if an individual complains about her/his life’s injury, it can be selfish. It can also keep that person from healing, because complaining often feels like a solution to a complaint, when it’s really not.

Saying, “I’m great,” to someone who asks, “How are you?” is a powerful, first step in choosing happiness.

Namaste, Sheryl

mindfulness

Mindfulness, Part One

Mindfulness is a tool for us humans — whose minds drift up and down, sideways and backwards, into the past and into the future — to still our minds to just accept the present moment. Mindfulness is for everyone, not just for those who are stressed and not just for those who are relaxed. Mindfulness does not solve problems, and it does not change who we are.

Our minds and our egos are, by their nature, very busy and very distractible. If it is true that we are the creators of our own lives — and it is! — then putting a distractible mind in charge of that creation results in a life with a high level of chaos. Mindfulness gently and temporarily pushes the mind and ego aside. Mindfulness allows the soul — the truest part of ourselves — to rise to consciousness. When your soul is in charge of your life’s creation, what do you think the result will be?

For a short mindfulness practice, focus on your breath. Take a deep breath in through your nose. Feel the air come in through your nostrils and into your lungs. Hold it for two seconds. Then breathe out through your mouth, feeling the rush of air and your lungs deflate. Repeat two or three times. If you feel your mind lose focus, simply bring it back gently to your breath.

Tomorrow, I will present resources, quotations, gurus and ideas for incorporating mindfulness.

Namaste,  Sheryl

P.S. Thank you to The Creator of All for giving me the words to write this when I was at a loss for words.

You Deserve What You Seek

Dearest friends, I don’t often share about my personal life. There are so many better examples out there of the miracles of life, in my opinion! Still, I have been urged by my dear husband to share with you this dialogue I had recently with The Creator of All.

The backstory is that our family is in transition moving from the Mainland U.S. to Maui, Hawaii. We have been in Hawaii for about 6 weeks. We are struggling in our rental home because of unresolved maintenance issues and are preparing to have to terminate our lease and move to another home.


September 10, 2014

Sheryl:  Hi, God…

God: Hey, us.

Sheryl: I am dreaming of a home that works well, fits our family well, is where we want to live upcountry.

God: Stop dreaming it. Instead, accept it. Find it, and accept it. It is yours if you accept it. You are spending your energy wishing for it and wanting it, instead of bringing it to yourself. You know what you want. You know what fits and where it will be. You keep asking me for it. Why? Why aren’t you thanking me for it? Don’t you remember your baby Joe and how you began thanking me for him and then he came to you?

Sheryl: I apologize. I am so sorry. You are absolutely right. I accept your goodness. I thank you for the monetary wealth needed for this house. I look for what I need, and when I find it, I accept it with gratitude.

Thank you for giving us the opportunity to learn from our stay at our current home. Thank you for the ability to seek and find. I don’t just want it to fall into my lap. I seek it, I find it, and I accept it as what I deserve.

We deserve what we seek. Would you say that’s true?

God: Yes. And that is why you must be SO CAREFUL what you think about!!! You are seeking to want, and so I am giving you more to want.  When you seek to accept, then I give you what you can accept.  No, that didn’t come out right.

You are coming from a place of not having, and so I am giving you not having.  Come from a place of having everything you need, and I give you everything you need.

Sheryl: So, therefore, I seek only a standalone home, that is upcountry, with a minimum of three bedrooms plus office space, that allows a dog, with at least 2000 square feet, that’s in a neighborhood setting which is peaceful.

God: That place exists. Will you accept it?

Sheryl: Yes. Thank you for that place.

God: Now, actively look for it and for the ways in which you can fund it. Accept it. You deserve what you seek, so seek only the best.


I hope this is helpful to you. Taking on life in the way The Creator has described is new for me, so it is a good thing I like to experiment! Yesterday, our family went for a drive to Upcountry Maui and found a neighborhood that created much excitement for our family. My husband, daughter and I connected with it immediately. Even the baby seemed to enjoy it, or maybe he was picking up on our energy. We found our home — our neighborhood, at least. Now, we look for the ways to fund it, and they will be there. I will keep you informed.

As easily as we breathe the perfect amount of air that we need, let us also accept the perfect amount of the world’s other gifts, too.

Namaste, Sheryl

 

Many Thanks!

“‘Thank you’ is the best prayer that anyone could say. I say that one a lot. Thank you expresses extreme gratitude, humility, understanding.”

– Alice Walker (1944 – )

How can we express thanks to The Creator of All and  thus, as Alice Walker says, bring humility and understanding to our own lives? Let me count the ways!…

– We can appreciate ourselves. Anita Moorjani  writes, “I can’t say this strongly enough, but our feelings about ourselves are actually the most important barometer for determining the condition of our lives!” When we are thankful for the one who is closest – our own personal body and soul – it is infinitely easier to love and appreciate others.

–  We can spend time appreciating what we have. This could mean taking time with  our children, enjoying the sunset or taking a ride in a new car.

–  We can say ‘thank you’ to all those people in our lives, from the people who work at the grocery store to our partners and children.

– We can return a favor or pay a favor forward. This could be a thank you gift for a favor done to us. It could also be sharing what we have with a person or cause. When we share without concern for getting acknowledgement, the added benefit is we are blessed with even more.

– Finally, and most obviously, we can pray a prayer of thanks: “Thank you, Creator of All, for …”  When we thank God for blessings, we appreciate them more. When we thank God for problems, we gain understanding of them.

Namaste, Sheryl