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Life Is Messy

“When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what the storm is all about.” – Haruki Murakami (1949-)

What’s the difference between happy people and troubled people? It’s the way they process the messiness of their lives. I used to know a grown woman who was very unhappy and walked around feeling jealous of the happy people she met. She complained that life had handed her a miserable existence, and it wasn’t fair that other people didn’t have problems like she did. I was a child at that time, and so I took her assessment to be the truth.

In case you’re one of those folks who thinks those of us who walk around with a grin have an exemption from life’s storms, maybe I can help you join the ranks of the happy. I am a people watcher, an observer of life, and I have an insatiable curiosity about people and how they go about their lives. What I have noticed is that The Creator exempts NO ONE from pitfalls, tragedies and serious problems. It’s the people who, when their lives are a mess, ACCEPT that their lives are a mess who can walk out of the storm, as Haruki Murakami writes above.

I have two good friends, both of whom lost their husbands — one to choices on his part that ended the marriage and one to death. The first friend is struggling to believe that he did what he did and that her marriage is over. She wants the pain to end. She wants the storm to be over. She wants everything to be like it used to be. The second friend came to peace with her husband’s death within a few months. Yes, she had lost, but she immersed herself in her grief and then, she was able to see what she had gained. You can guess which of my friends is now experiencing happiness.

So, what are the steps to turning the messiness of life into happiness?

  1. Acknowledge your losses. Talk or write out them out. Get help from a professional counselor; the good ones help you acknowledge your pain at a rate that won’t devastate you.
  2. Grieve your losses. Some of your dreams will never come true. Some people will not be in your life, or at least, not in the way you’d like them to be in your life.
  3. Make your losses matter. Use them to do something positive for someone else. American TV personality John Walsh turned the abduction and murder of his son into a crusade which contributed to the capture of more than 1000 fugitives. Use your losses to shape your character in a way that softens you and makes you empathetic to others.
  4. Walk through your losses into your new life. Your life will never be the same. It’s not supposed to. You are more empathetic now. You appreciate sunrises more. You don’t take for granted that you will be alive tomorrow. You consider any day without a tragedy a beautiful one, and guess what? That puts a smile on your face!

Namaste,  Sheryl

Your True Self

Your True Self

January 19, 2015

Sheryl: Hey, God…

God: Hi, Supreme You! Look at you go. How does it feel to be your true self?

Sheryl: It’s hard to put it into words. I would say it’s magical, because I’m following what I love, what I’m good at and I have this certain innate knowledge that is “right.”

God: For our readers, let me ask you some questions. Are you concerned about money or that what you’re doing will earn money?

Sheryl: No. I have a conviction that every material thing I need is here and that anything I need in the future will be present in the future.

God: Are you concerned about other people or what they may think of you?

Sheryl: No. I feel no concern about others’ opinions of me. I will say that I have new confidence about embracing people who support me and about letting go of those who don’t. I want to draw near those who love me and say farewell to those with whom I’m not compatible. I don’t feel emotional about this. It’s just a practical understanding of what I need to be me.

God: What are you worried about?

Sheryl: Returning to my old way of living.

God: The past is in the past. Leave it there. (voice of strong authority)

How does it feel to be free?

Sheryl: I did not build the original prison of limitation that I lived in the last 50 years. However, I spent a lot of resources to maintain and reinforce it. Now, I have knocked a huge hole in the wall, enough to see a new, unlimited reality. I understand that the prison won’t dissolve like sugar in water, but it will slowly deteriorate without maintenance, and as you just said, I don’t have to look back at it.

So, it feels amazing to be me. I have not known real appreciation for myself until now, and my life is forever better.

God: Did you know that I am you and you are me?

Sheryl: You’ve impressed that upon me for a long time. Deep down I’ve known it. I am tempted to say that I wasted our creative power with my life so far, but I appreciate myself too much to be harsh.

God: Good girl.

Sheryl: It’s a journey, and I just get to be grateful for the present moment.

God: Your past brought you here, and it is gone. The future will be here soon enough. The present moment is the best gift I can give you.

Sheryl: Thank you. (hug)

(hug back)

No News is Good News

“There is a reason why we never feel good after watching the 6 o’clock news:  because it’s filled with fear-ladened propaganda to keep us living in that vibration, which eventually manifests itself somewhere throughout our day or evening.”

– Gregg Prescott, in5d.com

Thoughts are energy. Sad, scary, depressing, fearful and negative thoughts bring low energy. Happy, positive, exciting, hopeful and uplifting thoughts bring high energy.

So, the question is, which energy do you want in your life? If you would prefer low energy, to move around your life with a sense of hopelessness and despair, then a sure solution is to tune your televisions and radios to a news channel. It doesn’t matter which news channel, either. It could be a conservative, liberal, neutral, faith-based or government news station. The results will be the same.

If you prefer high energy, to feel joyful and hopeful, a sure solution is to send thoughts of lovingkindness first to yourself and then to everyone else. In one of my favorite songs, China Anne McClain sings, “I am, you are, we are… exceptional.” Whenever I send that unspoken thought to people I meet, I always, always get a smile and a connection.

You may be wondering if not keeping up with the news will make you miss out on something. In short, no. If it’s news that will truly affect you, you will hear it from a friend or neighbor. If you feel you will show up to the water cooler chat uneducated, then show up as the student of the news instead of as the teacher. (Uneducated you says, “George, what do you think is important about the decline in cranberry production?”) Or even better, spend your news channel time studying your industry and its trends and turn that frown into a promotion!

Namaste, Sheryl

 

pink bubble technique

Pink Bubble Technique

“Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.” – Wayne Dyer

Shakti Gawain is an author and speaker in the field of personal development. In a recent issue of Spirituality & Health magazine, she shared her favorite guided meditation for the purpose of manifesting.

  • Sit or lie down comfortably at a time you won’t be disturbed.
  • Close your eyes.
  • Focus on your breath, as you inhale deeply through your nose and exhale through your mouth.
  • Relax!
  • Imagine something you would like to manifest in your life as if it has already happened. Picture it in your mind as clearly as possible.
  • Now, imagine a pink bubble and place your goal inside.
  • In your mind, imagine letting go of the pink bubble and imagine it floating up into the universe. It is free to float around to gather the energy it needs to manifest itself and return to you.

That is all. There is nothing more for you to do.

Note: I used a similar technique to manifest adopting a baby several years ago — and he’s almost three now! I just used this technique to imagine a successful launch of my first book. I will let you know the outcome.

Please share your experiences here. Have you used this technique? What happened? Can you think of a way it could be useful to you?

Namaste,   Sheryl

Mistakes

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”

– Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (1926-2004)


“If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.”

– John Wooden (1910-2010)


“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.”

– Buddha (563-483 BCE)


I made a mistake. Well, I think I made a mistake, anyway. Here’s the story… in a last-minute plan that seemed like a great idea at the time, I came to Hawaii in June and spent less than a week looking at the island and finding a home for my family to live. While I found great schools for my children, I ignored the warning signs of finding a suitable place for us to live. On our last day of the exploratory visit, I booked a rental house, only to find out now that the home is in poor repair and the landlord does not care to do what is necessary to fix it. The rental market is very tight, with few three bedroom homes. And it is impossible for us to purchase a comfortable home given the Hawaiian cost of living and our coming from a low cost of living area – Texas.

If I shared my story with Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, she would advise me to go inside and to discover what it is I am supposed to learn. I would say that it has been a huge blessing to become closer to my stepson who lives here. His girlfriend has advised me on artwork for my first book and will serve as my editor, too! I would say that I appreciate the abundance of fresh tropical fruits and fish. I would say that I learned that I value a comfortable home that works well over panoramic views and access to beaches.

If I shared my story with John Wooden, he would commend me on being a “doer.” He would tell me about the many people who never take chances. He would say that doing often results in successes, too. Keep doing, he would say.

If I shared my story with The Buddha, he would ask me if I had gone all the way. I started this, to be sure, so no mistake there. But have I gone all the way? Could waiting for the manifestation of money bring us to a comfortable home? Or does going all the way mean I’ve accepted Hawaii for everything it is and exhausted all the possibilities for a pleasurable life here?

I am so glad to have these many mentors to help me. I know that if we return to Texas – our current plan now – I will spend plenty of time getting to know our new town so that our basic needs for comfort can be easily met. I will not make the same mistake again, at least, not on purpose!

Thank you, Creator of All, that you give me mistakes and life lessons, so that I may grow stronger. Thank you that I can be an example to others who may be considering the mistake I made. Thank you that I can model resilience, perseverance and a good attitude for those around  me.

Namaste, Sheryl

Your Next Opportunity

I find it fun, interesting and educational to look at real life and link it to spirituality. After all, the separation of our physical and spiritual worlds is an illusion.  Like Elizabeth Barrett Browning once  wrote, “Earth’s crammed with heaven, and every common bush afire with God.”

This weekend, I had the chance to observe west Maui beaches busy with surfers. I saw one surfer in particular getting ready to go into the ocean. I would guess he was in his 50’s, with a deep tan and a well-used surfboard. He prepared his surfboard by waxing it. He observed the other surfers for a few minutes. Then, after rubbing wet sand on his board, he walked into the ocean and paddled out about 30 yards (27 meters). He watched and waited. After a few minutes, a big wave came along, and without much trouble, he mounted his surfboard and rode it in. After that, he paddled back out to watch and wait again.

I don’t know how long my guy stayed out in the surf, but I do know from watching other surfers that the cycle of paddle out, watch and wait, and surf in, can be repeated for a very long time.

Do you think that opportunities are like waves, that they are constantly appearing? Or maybe you believe that opportunities happen rarely, like the sighting of a comet?

My guess is that those of us who believe in numerous opportunities get them, just like those who believe in the rarity of opportunities get them, too. Which belief works better for you?

Namaste, Sheryl

Ask for What’s Positive

We all have the choice as to what and how to think. When we think about what brings us success, joy and happiness, we get those things. When we choose to think of what weighs us down and causes us pain…  well, we get that, too.

But don’t take my word for it! I’ve attached quotations from a few famous people and invite you to explore this spiritual “truth” on your own.

Thank you for sharing!

Namaste, Sheryl


“Ask — it’ll be given to you; seek — you’ll find; knock — it’ll be opened for you. Rest assured: everyone who asks receives; everyone who seeks finds; and for the one who knocks it is opened. Who among you would hand a son a stone when it’s bread he’s asking for? Again, who would hand him a snake when it’s fish he’s asking for? Of course no one would! So if you, shiftless as you are, know how to give your children good gifts, isn’t it much more likely that your Father in the heavens will give good things to those who ask him?”

– The Gospel According to Matthew, 7:7-11


“A thought is the most powerful force in the universe. You can make of your life whatever you wish if you learn to make your thoughts work for you.”  – Wayne Dyer


“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.” – Henry David Thoreau

What if?

To me, Hell isn’t a place; it’s a state of mind. It is a psychological self-imprisonment in which fear is the warden. It is a result of not living in alignment with your goals, dreams, and purpose. It is to find yourself in the endless emotional agony of, “What if?” – Steve Maraboli

Many of us in the world of spirituality talk about the uniqueness and limitlessness of our perfect selves. What if… you allowed your perfect self to shine as only you can? What if you brought into your life only that which supports you? What if you never let in a discouraging thought? What if you questioned everything so as to enrich your life with the best knowledge?

What if you knew what only The Creator of All knows about you? What if you knew The Creator’s thoughts intimately?

Please let me help you reach Him/Her!

Namaste, Sheryl

 

Thinking Big

“Thinking big means to seek it all — permanent happiness, spiritual greatness, eternal joy, our true soul mate, immortality, and peace on earth forevermore — and to let go of everything else that prevents us from reaching that promised land.

If we don’t genuinely believe that these are attainable goals and our destiny, then we can’t ever tell anyone that we know how to think big. Because the ego, the dark side of human nature, just duped us into thinking small.

Everything is possible. When we believe it, we will see it.”

– From The 72 Names of God by Yehuda Berg

Here is a spiritual cornerstone that I like to visit from time to time: Thinking Big. When we believe it, we will see it.

Here are steps I have taken myself to manifest:

  • Develop a vision of what is to be manifested, but avoid over-planning or over-studying
  • Feel deeply what it will be like once the manifestation occurs
  • Understand how this manifestation will help, not only you, but others, too
  • Hold on loosely to the vision but don’t let go of it
  • Thank The Creator for having already delivered it to you
  • Remain in the Present Moment, so as to fully see the numerous opportunities for making the manifestation come to you

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me about Thinking Big.

Namaste,  Sheryl

Part 4 of 5: Attitude

Except-ance: viewing people and situations through a filter of exclusion

Endure-ance: viewing people and situations as though they are painful and in need of change

Accept-ance: viewing people and situations as proper, normal and inevitable

(Clicking on the highlighted words above will take you to previous blog pages. On those pages are further descriptions of these ideas, in addition to their positive and negative aspects.)

Today, let’s look at real life, attitude and these ideas together…

Real Life Example 1:  Exercising. How do you view staying in a healthy physical condition?

  • If you “except” it, then you may exercise but you limit yourself to do what you’ll do, always being cognizant of your weak shoulder or the weather or the conditions of the gym. You’ll never get 100% out of your exercise, because there are too many reasons not to do it, and because you will not partake in exercise that gives your body a chance to go beyond its limits.
  • If you “endure” it, then you exercise but you feel discomfort and pain. You complain about it, too. You will also not get 100% out of your exercise, because you cannot appreciate the positive results of exercise.
  • If you “accept” it, then you, too, may feel discomfort and pain. What’s different is that you appreciate that you are getting stronger, maintaining a healthy weight, and all those other benefits. Just appreciating that you are doing things to make your body healthier will, indeed, make it healthier!

Real Life Example 2: A Difficult Female Family Member. How do you deal with her?

  • If you “except” her, then you will hardly give her the time of day. You will never get to know much about her at all.
  • If you “endure” her, then you will visit with her and spend some time with her. However, you’ll also complain about her and think of different ways that she could be a nicer person.
  • If you “accept” her, then you will try understand her fully and completely. This may lead to your discovering things about her that make you want to spend more time with her. It may also lead to your discovering things about her that make you want to   have no interaction with her.

Real Life Example 3: A New Business Venture. What do you do with this possibility?

  • If you “except” it, you are likely either to summarily approve it or reject it. You will not have enough information to be wise in whichever decision you make.
  • If you “endure” it, you may entertain it, but you will have to have proof positive that it will work in order to approve it. You will probably delegate the investigation of the venture to someone else.
  • If you “accept” it, you will take a holistic approach to it. You will ask if it fits into your existing business, if it is feasible, if it will be profitable, etc. After investigating it to a natural approval or rejection, you will be able to make a wise decision about it.

Can you think of other examples to share with us? Please leave your comments below.

Namaste, Sheryl