Know Through Silence

“Those who know

do not talk.

Those who talk

do not know.”

– Tao Te Ching

I readily admit, I ripped this off my Tao Te Ching (as translated by Wayne Dyer) perpetual calendar today. It struck a chord.

Here at Talking With The Creator, I affirm our need and ability to speak directly with the energy behind all of creation who has been given thousands of names. We who delve deeply into our quiet depths and learn from our Source know much. We know what newspapers cannot tell us. We know what our five senses could never pick up. We know truth–not, “THE Truth,” as if such a thing existed. We know what is true and right for ourselves in each situation and in each moment.

We do not talk about this. The closest I’ve ever come to talking about my conversations with God are in this forum, to you who share this interest and hopefully, this gift. You are the safest audience.

The Tao says, “Those who talk do not know.” And how true that is! We are seemingly outnumbered by those who cannot enjoy silence. Their egos are loud in their own heads. They must speak out publicly. Their lack of confidence and their need for assurance is often evident. Some months back, a friend admitted to me that he gets apprehensive if people don’t start “Liking” his Facebook posts within a few minutes of posting. I can’t say I’ve ever had that experience.

In our world of instantaneous messaging and ubiquitous social media, it can feel like you’re out of the loop if you’re not in constant communication on your favorite device. But don’t be fooled. The news that will keep your life on solid footing is not floating around the Internet. It is in the silent conversations with your Creator.

Namaste, Sheryl

 

The Middle Path

The Middle Path

I woke up early today for a Talk with The Creator…


 

Sheryl: Hey, God…

God: Hi, Beautiful You. (*hug*) Let’s talk about body, mind and spirit. Humans are a bit complex in their make-up and yet simple when it comes to caring for themselves.

Sheryl: Are you talking about the maintenance of ourselves or about self-love or something else?

God: I’m talking about the things it takes to make a human healthy in body, mind and spirit. These three areas cannot be divided from each other, and they all work together. In many cases, you guys neglect one of them and then your entire body–your entire life, if you will–suffers.

The Buddha was on the right path with the middle path. This is the concept that moderation and upkeep of body, mind and spirit lead to a healthy life. By healthy, I don’t just mean being a fine physical specimen. I also mean that one’s spirit is carefree and happy and that one’s mind is active and engaged.

Sleep, nutritious food, exercise, and intimacy are all needed to take care of the body.Doing work you love at every age, whether it’s raising children, crunching numbers or playing card games, nourishes your mind. Taking care of the little child inside you by being aware of his/her needs nourishes your spirit.

Sheryl: You do make it sound simple.

God: Indeed, it is. But life as a human is full of challenges. You have physical ailments. You have other people’s opinions  of how you should live. You have your own upbringings, so the human parents you chose have a great influence as to how you treat yourself. It’s all reversible, of course, but some things are easier to reverse than others.

Awareness is key and is the first step. Just notice if you are or are not sleeping well, eating well, etc. Notice if your mind is or isn’t usually engaged. And notice if your spirit seems weak and tired or happy and loved. Then ask yourself, “What can I do to make this better?” Listen. The answers are with you, inside you.

Sheryl: Thank you, I will pass this message along. And use it on myself, too.


Namaste, Sheryl

journal

Journaling

“The practice of writing in a journal is a powerful tool for cultivating what you want from life.

We are artists, creating our lives out of the materials of our experiences, thoughts, and dreams. When we write, we empower ourselves and breathe life into what we want and how we want to live.

You can’t always know exactly how your desires will materialize into reality. This is where faith comes in.

If you show up, listen to and speak from your heart, and then let go of the need to know how, you can let the universe or God or quantum physics or whatever that thing is that helps our dreams become a reality do its magic.”

— Janna Krawczyk, tinybuddha.com

Writing has, as far back as I can remember, been an important release in my life. Whether I wrote to figure out my emotions as a teenager or played with fictional short stories, writing gave my mind a chance to explore and play.

Journaling is now a critical part of my grief therapy as I move forward after the death of my husband. In my lowest emotional states, writing in my journal without censor or abandon helps my mind make sense of the chaotic thoughts that make me think I’m going crazy. Why did he die? Why now? What now? Some of these questions will never have answers, but dumping them out onto paper–or in my case, into my word processing program–helps me to find peace.

I was curious how others might use personal writing and found a tinybuddha.com blog regarding the power of journaling. Ms. Janna Krawczyk presents a personal case of searching for answers, journaling about her situation, gaining clarity over time, and then, having The Creator/Universe/God bring her solutions.

How this makes sense to me! The Creator is here to help our biggest dreams to come true. Writing our dreams down helps us think through them and brings clarity to them. This clarity makes it easier for them to be manifested.

If you don’t have a cute journal or laptop available, just grab a piece of paper and a pen and let your mind send thoughts to your journal without judgment. Let me know what happens!

Namaste, Sheryl

 

What is it to Be Real?

“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’

‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’

‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

from The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams


 

According to Margery Williams, it is difficult to be Real. Those who damage easily or are high maintenance don’t often become Real. It is those who have been subjected to the rough play of life, who can get knocked around a bit without falling apart, who become Real. It’s when life REALLY loves you that you become Real.

What does it look like when life REALLY loves us? Meaningful risks resulting in great rewards…and in great losses, too. Caring for someone so deeply that we will trade everything we have to keep them with us…and having them leave. Giving a cause our last bit of energy because we know it’s deserving…and having it not be enough.

When we invite life to REALLY love us, we become shabby and war-torn. We know the sweetness of victory, as well as the agony of defeat. Maybe the Skin Horse could have admitted that Real people do mind getting hurt, it’s just the risk of missing out on love and adventure is worth the pain and agony that may come along with it. Sure, we may appear ugly to the majority of the fragile, high-maintenance people. To the Real people, we cannot be ugly.

The Creator of All loves and respects each of us equally in our journeys through this life. Rest assured, if you find yourself considered ugly by people because you became Real, your Creator will never see you as ugly.

Who, do you think, is more Real than The Creator of All?

Namaste,  Sheryl

God Talks About Tragedy

May 6, 2015

Sheryl: Hey, God.

God: Hey, incredible Me.

S: There’s no need to tell you what’s been going on in my world. [For my readers, on March 20, 2015, my husband and father of four, including our two minor children, died suddenly and unexpectedly while we were on vacation in Florida.]

G: Yeah… (sadly)

S: It seems like a cruel joke, sometimes. It seems like so many things were going right. And then the world seemed just to crumble from underneath our feet.

G: Yeah… (sadly)

S: You didn’t cause this? But you had a hand in it?

G: That’s right. I have a hand in everything. And I’m here to pick up the pieces with you.

S: Thank you.

G: (hug)  Your life is still perfection. It doesn’t feel that way, and no one would trade places with you; but still, it is perfect.

S: It just has the illusion of being a tumultuous, earthquake-shaken roller coaster in the dark?

G: Yeah. (sad laugh) That’s a pretty horrible disguise, isn’t it?


 

I offer my conversation with The Creator of All to you in love and peace. The truth is, each one of us who communicates directly with The Creator can learn different lessons about tragedy and death. Thus is the complexity and enormity of The Creator of All.

I invite you to go to that quiet place and reach out to The Creator to speak about life, death or whatever may be on your mind. Please share with us the message The Creator has for you.

Namaste, Sheryl

Love of Self

Good day, friends. On Facebook, I am a member of a discussion group for the author Anita Moorjani. One of the other members posted this quotation from Charlie Chaplin, and it struck me so profoundly that I had to share it with you:

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY.”
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT.”


As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY.”


As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE.”


As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY.”


As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF.”


As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY.”


As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT.”


As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART.”


We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE!”
— Sir Charles Chaplin (1889-1977)

Namaste,  Sheryl

happiness

Happiness is a Choice

“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”

– Groucho Marx (1895-1997)

My happiest days have been the ones on which I decided I would be happy. This life on Earth that we’ve all chosen is one of miscues, misunderstandings and misbehaviors. No one reaches the age of 35 (in my humble opinion) without some seriously horrible event or circumstance occurring in his/her life. There is no logic to being cheerful after this age, because we all have legitimate excuses to groan and complain.

And yet, choosing sadness brings more sadness which eventually brings depression.  I’m not saying that life doesn’t deal us good reasons to seek professional help for trauma, believe me. What I’m saying is that if an individual complains about her/his life’s injury, it can be selfish. It can also keep that person from healing, because complaining often feels like a solution to a complaint, when it’s really not.

Saying, “I’m great,” to someone who asks, “How are you?” is a powerful, first step in choosing happiness.

Namaste, Sheryl

Rebirth

Rebirth

“The deliciousness of each day made me feel as though I’d just been born. It was as if I’d entered the world as an adult, as if I’d been born for the first time on February 3, 2006.

At the same time, I found myself unable to reconnect with many of my old friends, whom I attempted to  meet over lunch or coffee. Everyone was anxious to catch up with me, but most  didn’t understand how deeply and profoundly this experience had changed me.”

– Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me


 

“So I went to New York City to be born again. It was and remains easy for most Americans to go somewhere else and start anew. I wasn’t like my parents. I didn’t have any supposedly sacred piece of land or shoals of friends to leave behind. Nowhere has the number zero been of more philisophical value than in the United States…. and when the [train] plunged into a tunnel under New York City, with it’s lining of pipes and wires, I was out of the womb and into the birth canal.”

– Kurt Vonnegut, Bluebeard


“In the last few years, losing my father, going through a divorce, and not getting some jobs I really wanted are making me a much more interesting person, I think. This really does feel like a rebirth, a new chapter.”

– John Stamos


 

We emerge from our mothers’ dark and warm wombs into a bright, strange world. We live here for a while, and many of us get so attached to our surroundings that we decide to keep them close to us our whole lives.

Others of us, by conscious choice or by subconscious choice, decide to leave one existence and re-emerge into a new one while still on the planet. While our bodies may appear to be the same, our lives are permanently and forever changed. The disjoint is usually striking, both to the reborn and to those who were previously a part of his life.

Just as a caterpillar does not attempt to bring her cocoon with her after she emerges as a butterfly, let us feel free to leave behind the remnants of a past existence. Butterflies have new work like pollinating plants and laying eggs. If you wouldn’t expect a butterfly to hang around with the caterpillars, why would you expect someone in a state of rebirth to maintain her previous lifestyle?

Let’s share and celebrate our stories regarding rebirth!  🙂

Namaste, Sheryl

You Are a Creator

You are a Creator

“I feel the smile of  God as I create.
It’s like we are colleagues, working side by side
to manifest our ideas into objects.
Whether I am home creating vibrant children or
in my office, creating stories or ideas for clients,
God is my co-worker, and I am on his  team.”

— Sheryl Miller

Have  you had this feeling lately? Can’t it be a challenge to see your own contributions sometimes? I left a job once, because I didn’t feel like I was doing enough for the world through that job. I looked for meaning and didn’t find it. In hindsight, the job was loaded with contributions, and my work was important to thousands of people.

Because I’ve gained a larger world view through the experience of living, now it is easier for me to see the effects my life has on other people’s lives. It’s like rain falling on a pond; each water drop creates a ripple that extends in all directions. I cannot live without having such an effect and without others affecting my life, too.

As I offer, with intention, my conversations with The Creator of All and my other creations to the world, it helps me to appreciate the creations of others: my reliable car, the Chagall painting in my bedroom, my favorite TV shows, the kind thoughts of my husband, the spontaneous dancing of my daughter, and the active imagination of my little son.

You are a Creator, but if you are having trouble recognizing it, why not intentionally create something today? It could be as simple as a doodle on a piece of paper or as sophisticated as a rebuilt motorcycle engine.

Bring us your creativity. Please! We need you.

Namaste,  Sheryl

Your True Self

Your True Self

January 19, 2015

Sheryl: Hey, God…

God: Hi, Supreme You! Look at you go. How does it feel to be your true self?

Sheryl: It’s hard to put it into words. I would say it’s magical, because I’m following what I love, what I’m good at and I have this certain innate knowledge that is “right.”

God: For our readers, let me ask you some questions. Are you concerned about money or that what you’re doing will earn money?

Sheryl: No. I have a conviction that every material thing I need is here and that anything I need in the future will be present in the future.

God: Are you concerned about other people or what they may think of you?

Sheryl: No. I feel no concern about others’ opinions of me. I will say that I have new confidence about embracing people who support me and about letting go of those who don’t. I want to draw near those who love me and say farewell to those with whom I’m not compatible. I don’t feel emotional about this. It’s just a practical understanding of what I need to be me.

God: What are you worried about?

Sheryl: Returning to my old way of living.

God: The past is in the past. Leave it there. (voice of strong authority)

How does it feel to be free?

Sheryl: I did not build the original prison of limitation that I lived in the last 50 years. However, I spent a lot of resources to maintain and reinforce it. Now, I have knocked a huge hole in the wall, enough to see a new, unlimited reality. I understand that the prison won’t dissolve like sugar in water, but it will slowly deteriorate without maintenance, and as you just said, I don’t have to look back at it.

So, it feels amazing to be me. I have not known real appreciation for myself until now, and my life is forever better.

God: Did you know that I am you and you are me?

Sheryl: You’ve impressed that upon me for a long time. Deep down I’ve known it. I am tempted to say that I wasted our creative power with my life so far, but I appreciate myself too much to be harsh.

God: Good girl.

Sheryl: It’s a journey, and I just get to be grateful for the present moment.

God: Your past brought you here, and it is gone. The future will be here soon enough. The present moment is the best gift I can give you.

Sheryl: Thank you. (hug)

(hug back)