Happy New (Gregorian) Year! For many of us in western cultures, this is a time for reflection of the past and planning for the future. We decide to exercise more or diet or organize our living spaces.
I am re-posting a conversation I had with The Creator in October regarding major changes that we decide to make. We do not make changes for things that are working for us, only for things that are broken in some way. Surrender is a powerful way to fully appreciate and accept a broken life, so that we may make meaningful change.
I wish you a year free of fear and worry with health, happiness, and prosperity, and I gently recommend you make this wish to every one in your life!
2014 October 26
Sheryl: Hi, God.
God: Hi, Me… Us. You want to talk about surrender?
Sheryl: Yes, and acceptance. Is there a difference? And can we use them to help ourselves and others?
God: Yes, that’s a lot to talk about. I think of acceptance and surrender along the same lines. Surrender is acceptance with much greater intensity. You see, acceptance of the little things that can’t be changed can give you a happy demeanor. It can make your life easier to live.
Sheryl: When I think of acceptance, I think of accepting people as they are. I think of accepting unchangeable environments. For example, when we were in Hawaii, we had to accept that the cost of comfortable housing was above our budget.
God: Yes, acceptance is for all the little things. Surrender is acceptance for EVERYTHING. Surrender is helpful when there are so many little things in your life you cannot embrace and you cannot change that you don’t know what to do.
That brings me to the difference between accepting and embracing. Accepting a person does not mean embracing her. Accepting a situation does not mean embracing it. Your lives are a compound of many millions of “things.” “Things” include people, physical environment like sights and sounds, personal decisions, and so much more. When the number of “things” that you cannot change or embrace becomes too many, you struggle mightily. You can choose to continue to struggle – not a fix. You can choose to break down – not a fix. You can choose to take out your frustrations on innocent victims – abuse, is what I call this.
Or you can choose to surrender. Surrender means you accept EVERYTHING. It does not mean you embrace it. Surrender requires that YOU change. You change your environment. You change your habits. You change people in your life. You change something. And sometimes, you change everything.
Sheryl: Surrender is an act of desperation.
God: Yes, it is. When you surrender, you say, “Hey, I can’t stand the way things are, but they are what they are. I will have to change myself if I want peace.”
Sheryl: You remind me of surrender in war times and of the work of organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous.
God: Surrender occurs when all other tries have failed. There is beauty in it. There is strength in it. There is peace in it. You lay down your defenses against your environment, so you can accept it and move away from it. That is surrender.
Sheryl: Thank you.