Monthly Archives: October 2014

spiritual surrender

Spiritual Surrender

2014 October 26

Sheryl: Hi, God.

God: Hi, Me… Us. You want to talk about surrender?

Sheryl: Yes, and acceptance. Is there a difference? And can we use them to help ourselves and others?

God: Yes, that’s a lot to talk about. I think of acceptance and surrender along the same lines. Surrender is acceptance with much greater intensity. You see, acceptance of the little things that can’t be changed can give you a happy demeanor. It can make your life easier to live.

Sheryl: When I think of acceptance, I think of accepting people as they are. I think of accepting unchangeable environments. For example, when we were in Hawaii, we had to accept that the cost of comfortable housing was above our budget.

God: Yes, acceptance is for all the little things. Surrender is acceptance for EVERYTHING. Surrender is helpful when there are so many little things in your life you cannot embrace and you cannot change that you don’t know what to do.

That brings me to the difference between accepting and embracing. Accepting a person does not mean embracing her. Accepting a situation does not mean embracing it. Your lives are a compound of many millions of “things.” “Things” include people, physical environment like sights and sounds, personal decisions, and so much more. When the number of “things” that you cannot change or embrace becomes too many, you struggle mightily. You can choose to continue to struggle – not a fix. You can choose to break down – not a fix. You can choose to take out your frustrations on innocent victims – abuse, is what I call this.

Or you can choose to surrender. Surrender means you accept EVERYTHING. It does not mean you embrace it. Surrender requires that YOU change. You change your environment. You change your habits. You change people in your life. You change something. And sometimes, you change everything.

Sheryl: Surrender is an act of desperation.

God: Yes, it is. When you surrender, you say, “Hey, I can’t stand the way things are, but they are what they are. I will have to change myself if I want peace.”

Sheryl: You remind me of surrender in war times and of the work of organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous.

God: Surrender occurs when all other tries have failed. There is beauty in it. There is strength in it. There is peace in it. You lay down your defenses against your environment, so you can accept it and move away from it. That is surrender.

Sheryl: Thank you.


Namaste, Sheryl

We Can Be Mended

We Can Be Mended

“Happy Choosing Day,” she says. “I’m going to ask you how you really are. And you’re going to give me an honest answer.”

“I’m all right,” I say. “It’s hard. It always will be.”

“Yeah, sometimes life really sucks,” she says. “But you know what I’m holding on for?”

I raise my eyebrows.

She raises hers, too, mimicking me.

“The moments that don’t suck,” she says. “The trick is to notice them when they come around.”

Then she smiles, and I smile back, and we climb the stairs to the train platform side by side.


Since I was young, I have always known this: Life damages us, every one. We can’t escape that damage. But now, I am also learning this: We can be mended. We mend each other.

—  From Allegiant by Veronica Roth

 

My tween daughter is enjoying the post-apocalyptic, sci-fi stories like Hunger Games, The Giver and Divergent.  Allegiant is the third book in the Divergent series and I am reading the books along with her. This quotation comes from the end of the book after the heroes of the story have taken great risk and suffered tremendous loss in order to bring about justice.

What I appreciate about this quotation are the heroes, first, acknowledging their losses and second, taking responsibility for improving their own lives. It’s not necessary for them to hold grudges. Nor do they sugar-coat their pain. They go on with their lives, looking for “the moments that don’t suck” and finding ways to mend themselves and others.

Namaste, Sheryl

What Do You Want to Do Next?

“You know, I’m not a huge fan of the concept of ‘passion’ when it comes to careers. Instead of trying to answer the daunting question of ‘What’s your passion?’ it’s better simply to watch what you do when you’ve got time of your own and nobody’s looking.”

– Daniel H. Pink (1964-)

I have been reading a bit about highly sensitive people (www.hsperson.com), careers and crossroads. Along my path of discovery I found a YouTube video, “How Dan Pink Learned the Six Lessons.” Here is a writer who meandered into a very successful career, simply by doing what he enjoyed and not what he didn’t enjoy. He first finished law school and then discovered that he didn’t want to do what attorneys do!

Always looking for opportunities and never giving up on making a living in an enjoyable way, Daniel Pink found his way into speechwriting and then into research and writing books about business.

Still, as he describes it, it was all so casual. There were unexpected turns on the way to his successes. I would have to say he stayed in the present moment in his desire to enjoy his future moments. He was open to many different opportunities and did not flinch at working outside the parameters of a normal business environment.

Inspiring!

Namaste,  Sheryl