Monthly Archives: August 2014

Thinking Big

“Thinking big means to seek it all — permanent happiness, spiritual greatness, eternal joy, our true soul mate, immortality, and peace on earth forevermore — and to let go of everything else that prevents us from reaching that promised land.

If we don’t genuinely believe that these are attainable goals and our destiny, then we can’t ever tell anyone that we know how to think big. Because the ego, the dark side of human nature, just duped us into thinking small.

Everything is possible. When we believe it, we will see it.”

– From The 72 Names of God by Yehuda Berg

Here is a spiritual cornerstone that I like to visit from time to time: Thinking Big. When we believe it, we will see it.

Here are steps I have taken myself to manifest:

  • Develop a vision of what is to be manifested, but avoid over-planning or over-studying
  • Feel deeply what it will be like once the manifestation occurs
  • Understand how this manifestation will help, not only you, but others, too
  • Hold on loosely to the vision but don’t let go of it
  • Thank The Creator for having already delivered it to you
  • Remain in the Present Moment, so as to fully see the numerous opportunities for making the manifestation come to you

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me about Thinking Big.

Namaste,  Sheryl

Louise Hay

“I love and accept myself exactly as I am. I support myself, trust myself, and accept myself wherever I am. I can be within the love of my own heart. I place my hand over my heart and feel the love that is there. I know there is plenty of room for me to accept myself right here and now. I accept my body, my weight, my height, my appearance, my sexuality, and my experiences. I accept all that I have created for myself—my past and my present. I am willing to allow my future to happen. I am a Divine, Magnificent Expression of Life, and I deserve the very best. I accept this for myself now. I accept miracles. I accept healing. I accept wholeness. And most of all, I accept myself. I am precious, and I cherish who I am. And so it is.” – Louise Hay (1926-)

I Accept Myself – If you have ever wanted to learn more about how to accept and appreciate yourself, you can find no greater contemporary expert than Louise Hay. Louise has authored numerous books and speaks in public regularly. The movie, “You Can Heal Your Life,” is the story of her life and is available here.

Louise Hay is the founder of Hay House Publishing from which some of the finest books and programs on self-help and spirituality come.

Every encounter I have with Louise Hay’s work makes my life a little better.  I hope this is helpful for you, too.

Namaste, Sheryl

 

Songs In Your Heart

“Music is a higher revelation than all wisdom and philosophy.” – Ludwig van Beethoven

What are the songs in your heart? Music reaches my soul so easily and directly. Music can change my mood from happy to somber and vice versa. Songs can inspire my work.

Today, I want to share with you a few of the songs I use to help me be a better person. I would like to know the songs that inspire you, too. Would you please share them with me?

To inspire you to be true to yourself:

  • “Unwritten” by Natasha Bedingfield
  • “Celebrate You” by Corbin Bleu
  • “Let It Go” by Idina Menzel (from Frozen)
  • “One World” by The Cheetah Girls
  • “Beautiful Music” by Barry Manilow
  • “We Rock” from Camp Rock, Disney Channel
  • “Exceptional” by China Anne McClain
  • “Standing Outside the Fire” by Garth Brooks
  • “Born This Way” by Lady GaGa
  • “Cross the Line” from Bring It On: The Musical

 

To help you through a challenging situation or time:

  • “City of Love” by Martina McBride
  • “Keep Your Head Up” by Andy Grammer
  • “Stand” by Rascal Flatts
  • “Hanging On” by Cheyenne Kimball
  • “The Climb” by Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus
  • “Time, Love and Tenderness” by Michael Bolton
  • “Haven’t Met You Yet” by Michael Buble

 

To celebrate a breakthrough:

  • “Feels Like Today” by Rascal Flatts
  • “Feeling Good” by Michael Buble
  • “Come So Far (Got So Far to Go)” – cast of Hairspray

 

To help detach from a person or situation:

  • “Catch My Breath” by Kelly Clarkson
  • “Love Song” by Sara Bareilles
  • “Treat Me Right” by Pat Benatar
  • “Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You)” by Kelly Clarkson
  • “50 Ways to Say Goodbye” by Train
  • “I’m Still Standing” by Elton John

 

Namaste, Sheryl

God Make My Life

The inspiration for this almost-daily blog comes to me from a variety of sources. Sometimes, I take excerpts from my upcoming book. Sometimes, I draw upon a conversation I’ve had with a friend or family member. Other times, I turn to a random page in a wise person’s book and go from there. The last option is what I offer you today.

On my bookshelf is The Book of Virtues, by William J. Bennett. I spied it this evening sitting up there, pulled it down and randomly picked a page toward the front of the book. What I found was an old poem. It is the kind of request to The Creator of All that can result in great manifestation. You see, the writer makes requests so that she can better help others.

When we ask for the purpose of helping other people, rather than just to help ourselves, our requests carry more weight and they instill a happiness in us that helps them come to fruition.

Namaste,  Sheryl


A Child’s Prayer
by Matilda Bentham-Edwards (1836 – 1916)

God make my life a little light,
Within the world to glow;
A tiny flame that burneth bright
Wherever I may go.

God make my life a little flower,
That giveth joy to all,
Content to bloom in native bower,
Although its place be small.

God make my life a little song,
That comforteth the sad;
That helpeth others to be strong,
And makes the singer glad.

God make my life a little staff,
Whereon the weak may rest,
That so what health and strength I have
May serve my neighbors best.

Mindfulness in Business

“Mindfulness is the energy of attention. It is the capacity in each of us to be present one hundred percent to what is happening within and around us. It is the miracle that allows us to become fully alive in each moment.”

“Knowing that you are on the right path  is the greatest happiness. The greatest happiness is having a job that you like and that expresses your understanding and compassion. Happiness, responsibility, and mindfulness are interconnected. A businessperson begins the path to happiness by taking care of himself first. With practice in generating the energy of mindfulness, he’ll be able to receive the joy and happiness he deserves and he’ll have the capacity to care about the well-being of others.”

– from The Art of Power, by Thich Nhat Hanh (1926 -)

What is done well is done with mindfulness. I think about my favorite sushi bar, my favorite airline, and my favorite hotel. What these places all have in common is the delight they take in executing the fundamentals of their trades with precision. They pay attention to even the smallest details. And they focus on the care of their customers.

May we all bring this level of service to our customers and employees alike.

Namaste,  Sheryl

Take Joy in Children

“One of the most important jobs we have as parents is to take joy in our children, just as they are. To express, silently or out loud, that we wish them to be different people is to make them doubt their God-given uniqueness.” – Sheryl Miller (1964 -)

In my opinion, one of the most devastating things parents do to their children is done out of love and compassion for them: It is when parents wish, either silently or out loud, that their children were different than who they are.

Has this ever happened to you? In your adult life, when you sense that someone would prefer you were different in some fundamental way, don’t you want to run in the opposite direction?

Children are hard-wired to follow and adore their parents. Therefore, when a parent wishes a child to be fundamentally different, the child internalizes, “There is something very wrong with me. If I can be different, I will be okay and then, my mom/dad will love me.” Sickeningly, a parent who promotes self-esteem in a child at the same time as he/she wishes the child to be someone different is engaged in emotional abuse.

To my readers who enjoy connecting to The Creator and who have children, I invite you to give your children the gift of joyful acceptance. Just as The Creator gave you everything you need to live a unique and wonderful life, He/She gave your children the talents and internal compass to reach their full potentials. Wishing or hoping for something different from your child is interfering with The Creator of Us All.

Take Joy in Children. Take Joy in You!

Namaste,  Sheryl

You Are Valuable

“You are valuable because you exist. Not because of what you do what you have done, but simply because you are.” – Max Lucado (1955 -)

“Unconditional love is our birthright, not judgment or condemnation, and there’s nothing we need to earn it. This is simply who and what we are.” – Anita Moorjani (1959 -)

Yes, I sit here, and I write about being able to talk with The Creator of All, with the Almighty, with the Essence who is the source of everything. Today, I wonder, how many of us feel inadequate to speak with Him/Her? How many of us feel that we are not good enough, that we haven’t achieved enough, or that we just don’t deserve what The Creator has to share with us?

It’s a huge problem! Not only does it impact our ability to connect with God, but it also means we walk around life feeling people need to do something in order to be special. Yes, you see, when I feel like I haven’t earned value, then I can only judge others based on how much I value I think they have earned.

Max Lucado says, “You are valuable because you exist.” Not because of your talents. Not because of your work schedule. Not because of your bank account. Not because of your children or partner.

Anita Moorjani believes, “Unconditional love should be yours, because you exist.” Unconditional love has to come only from one source to be authentic, and that source is yourself. It can come from more than one source, to be sure, but it must come from one’s self at the least.

Seeing yourself as important, regardless of anything else, and giving yourself unconditional love and acceptance brings you closer to The Creator and to all The Creator wants to bring to you.

Namaste, Sheryl

 

 

All Events Are Blessings

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”

– Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (1926-2004)

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross was a highly regarded psychiatrist who spent much of her career in the study of the process of dying. Her book, On Death and Dying (1969), identified the five stages of grief, also known as the Kubler-Ross model: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

I am impressed that someone of Kubler-Ross’ experience would make the above statement. Here is a person who knows the inside and out of life’s most desperate moments, and she tells us that “all events are blessings.” How many families and individuals did she study? How many times could it have seemed a waste that a young family was losing their mother? Or that a tight-knit family was to going to be mourning the loss of a young girl who was a beloved daughter and sister?

In my heart, I believe that what she says is true. I’ve seen it in my own life, losing custody of a foster son I thought would be my forever son. The agony in such a moment is intense. And it can last a long time, too. Our challenge is to look for the blessings as quickly as we can breathe again, for certainly, those times can rob us of the desire to take another breath.

All events are blessings. The blessings I realized from taking care of and then losing care of my foster son are numerous. While I do not go back to open the painful wounds of the time of the loss, I do appreciate the sweet times he and I had together and the many beneficial lessons I learned from the experience.

Namaste, Sheryl

Universal Values

“Here are the values I stand for: honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you want to be treated and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values.”  – Ellen DeGeneres (1958-)

Ellen DeGeneres makes a great point, in my opinion. Different groups of people, especially our political parties, like to try to create drama by using values as a way to bait the other side. In reality, all but about  1% of the  world’s population stand for these values. Every major religion in the world teaches the benefits of these values. Since before the days of Aesop (620-560 BCE), stories, fables and tall tales have been woven to teach children how their lives  can run more smoothly when they appreciate these values.

Are they “traditional values”? I would argue that they are “universal values.” Incorporating them has worked in almost any time with almost any culture. When we try to assign the authorship of the Golden Rule, as an example, to a particular person or religion, we can only bring about mistrust and misunderstanding. The reality is, universal values have been around since humans could interact with each other.

Let us continue to appreciate universal values by holding them dear in our own lives and passing them on to the children in our lives, too.

Namaste,   Sheryl

 

Conflict

“Part of the happiness of life consists not in fighting battles, but in avoiding them. A masterly retreat is in itself a victory.” – Norman Vincent Peale (1898 – 1993)

“Your higher self is always nudging you toward a resolution of the conflicts that you experience in your life, so that you will have room for serenity and harmony.” – Wayne Dyer (1940 -)

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by  demons, heaven or hell.” – Buddha (563 – 483 BCE)

I invited three experts to join us today: Two modern and one ancient. All share with us about the idea of conflict.

Norman Vincent Peale repeats the adage, “Pick your battles.” One day last week, I was having a particularly hard time getting my toddler son ready in the morning. He refused both a fresh diaper and a change of clothes. As Peale would say, I retreated on getting him into play clothes but insisted on the clean diaper. My son and I were both happy.

Wayne Dyer reminds us to take care of our conflicts, because doing so brings peace to our lives. How many times have you read that conflicts are repeated in our lives until we solve them?

The Buddha points out that self-control solves the greatest conflict of all. When we control the words that come from our own mouths and actions that come from our own bodies, we realize the highest levels confidence and power.

Namaste,  Sheryl